“Whether
you know it or not, you live by what you believe.”
-Clara Bartow Legg
“We
live our lives based on what we believe about
our world, ourselves, our capabilities, and
our limits.”
-Gregg Braden, The Spontaneous Healing of Belief
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In
Last
weekend I literally gobbled down Gregg Braden's new book,
The Spontaneous Healing of Belief, reading it in
two days. I couldn't put it down! Some of his previous books
felt too "academic" or scientific, but this one
seemed to flow very easily.
Needless
to say, I've been thinking a lot about beliefs lately, and
wanted to share a few thoughts with you on the topic.
Also....
there's a couple of new features I've started in this issue.
One is the Subscriber Favorite
Quote section. Many thanks to everyone who
submitted quotes so far! Clara's quote was perfect for this
issue - She and Gregg Braden were definitely on the same
wave-length! Thanks Cory for sharing this with us. Find
out the story behind the quote here.
See Call for Quotes below to learn
how to submit your favorite!
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Enjoy
the rest of the issue!
-
Becky
P.S.
Be sure to check out the next Happy
Seeds episode for the next subscriber quote.
(To be posted Saturday, April 18.) I'll be talking about
life purpose...
Today’s
quote comes from subscriber, Cory Lynn Kemp, author and
founder of Creating
Women Ministries. These wise words originated with her
maternal grandmother (Clara Bartow Legg) and were passed
down to Cory from her mother.
Cory
writes, “Having heard these words from my grandmother
through my mother for my entire life, I only realized recently
that I have based my life work, helping people connect with
and live their faith, on exactly what she was saying.”
Thank
you, Cory, for sharing these words. They are right on the
mark with the ancient wisdom and leading-edge research that
Gregg Braden discusses in his book, The Spontaneous
Healing of Belief.
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Want
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beliefs, or simply want a deeper understanding and insight
into your beliefs, please send
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What
DO you believe?
“Whether
you know it or not, you live by what you believe.”
-Clara Bartow Legg
Our beliefs are the foundation of our lives. Nearly everyone
would agree with that. The big question though is….
Where
do our beliefs come from?
As Gregg
Braden states in his book - and I agree - fundamentally,
our beliefs come from our up-bringing. They come from our
parents and other key people in our lives. We also absorb
them from religion, science, history, and our culture.
And
“absorb” is THE significant word here.
Have
you heard the saying, “children are like sponges”?
Well they are (and we were too) all through the first 7
years of our lives.
Research
shows that our brains are in a hypnogogic or dreamlike state
up until we reach the age of seven. In this state, our mind
quite literally soaks up everything it can about our surroundings.
Additionally, at this point in our lives, we haven’t
developed filters or any sort of discernment to help us
know what is appropriate and what is not. To us, it’s
all just information to be recorded and stored - everything
– including biases, judgments, behavior patterns,
and the likes and dislikes of those around us, particularly
those of our primary care givers.
So in
a very real sense, our beliefs – those things that
serve as the cornerstone of our lives and the essence of
our capabilities and limits - are based on what other people
tell us.
The
logical question then, is:
What
if the beliefs that we’re basing our lives on are
wrong?
History
shows us many examples of “beliefs” that were
accepted as truth, and when they were proven wrong, really
upset a lot of apple carts. Here are a few:
The
sun revolves around the earth 1700's
The Earth is flat Middle Ages - although, 4th Century BC Greeks
were first to question this
The
amazing thing about the first two (the sun revolves around
the earth and the earth is flat) is that there are still
people today who are arguing that it's true! No kidding!
Type in "sun revolves around the earth" or "earth
is flat" and do a web search yourself.
ANYWAY......
The point is we WERE influenced early in life - which is
not necessarily a bad thing. But the important thing to
keep in mind here is that we were influenced by EVERYTHING
- the good, the bad, AND the ugly. Our subconscious minds
soaked all of it up as truth.
Do
you know what you believe?
The
conscious mind is where we analyze and process information,
then make plans for what to do with it. Our subconscious
mind, on the other hand, doesn't "think" about
things. It simply reacts. In computer analogy, as Gregg
uses throughout his book, the subconscious mind is the "hard
drive" of the brain simply doing it's job - endlessly
collecting information. It stores everything we experience
in our lifetime. It also keeps a cross-referenced log of
how we felt and what we thought about each event.
It's
estimated that 90% of our daily lives are directed from
the subconscious level - with some of this, of course, being
the basic functions that keep us alive like breathing, heartbeats,
digestion, etc. However, It also includes our subconscious
habits and beliefs - those that are life-affirming as well
as those that are limiting us in some way.
So
periodically, it's not a bad idea to dig beneath the surface
of our subconscious mind to discover what 7-year-old's "truths"
we are operating from. Once we do that, we can discern whether
or not these things are still true for us today as adults.
Then we can consciously choose to keep
them, or discard them, or choose to trade them for more
healthy, life-affirming beliefs.
Go
Deeper, Reach Higher
Finding Your Subconscious Beliefs
"Almost
universally, the experiences that cause people to feel stuck
have roots in what are considered negative beliefs that
we acquire early in life. And it's precisely because they're
subconscious that it's often difficult for us to see them
in ourselves." -Gregg
Braden
The
following exercise is from Gregg Braden's book, The
Spontaneous Healing of Belief. It is designed to help
you begin to identify the subconscious impressions and beliefs
that were formed while you were a child, and to explore
how these themes or patterns might be playing out in your
life today. As you answer the first four questions, use
single words, concise adjectives, or short phrases.
List
the positive characteristics for both male and female
caretakers who cared for you in your formative years,
until about the age of 15 or so.
Seeing
them through the innocence of a child, list the negative
characteristics for the same care givers.
What
did you want and need most from your caretakers?
Identify
any recurring frustrations from your childhood and describe
how you dealt with each one. In other words, how did you
maneuver around the obstacles in your life to get what
you needed?
Using
the words or phrases from the questions above, complete
each of these statements:
I
sometimes attract people into my life who are ___________
(answer from question #1.)
I
want them to be ___________ (answer from question
#2.)
...
so that I can have ________ (answer from question
#3.)
I
prevent myself from getting this sometimes by __________
(answer from question #4.)
This
exercise is a simple tool to help you identify general patterns
of your beliefs, which, as Mr. Braden says, are by-products
of our memories, perceptions, judgments, and desires. For
more detailed information on what this exercise tells you,
please see his book, The Spontaneous Healing of Belief,
page 95-96. This exercise is found in chapter three, "From
Brain to Mind: Who's Running Our Belief Factory?"
You
can learn more information about Gregg Braden here
or purchase the book from Amazon here.
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